December 14, 2012
On the 6th Day of The Reverse Commute: I Attended a “Meet The Author Night”
Last night at Jess Ayers’ house we had a lively discussion of my book The Reverse Commute. As a first time author it was so gratifying to hear that I had written something that so many women enjoyed. The age group at our meeting ranged from twenty-three to fifty-three and everyone related to the story I had told. There was something in it for everyone and that evening, despite our age differences, we were a group of women sharing a glass of wine and a lot of laughs and camaraderie.
Jess is a stay at home mom who loves what she is doing. She is the mother of a nine-year-old son and has recently adopted an adorable little two-year-old boy through the foster care program in Rhode Island. Last night we got to meet the latest addition to her family. She is another foster child, a four month old baby girl whose nickname is Pink because she was dressed head to toe in pink.
The rest of our group was a mix of working moms dealing with issues ranging from autism to teenagers to empty nests and a recent college graduate just starting her career but also looking for part-time work to help pay her college loans.
We discussed everything the book touched upon, from the struggle to balance work with family life to the joy of falling in love and the desire to keep that love alive after years of marriage amidst the hardships life often throws at you. We agreed that the men we fell in love with were all Best Boys in the beginning and we need to follow the advice of the epigraph at the start of The Reverse Commute.
“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” ~ Sam Keen
We also agreed that our female friends are so very important in our lives. Amidst the demands of work, marriage, and children it is important to take the time to be with your girlfriends.
As Kathy in The Reverse Commute said to Sophie in a dream one night, “Do you remember what I told you about love? That your husband can’t be everything to you? That’s why you need your friends and your sisters. Because there are just some things only women understand.”
By the end of the night, this impromptu gathering of women decided they had so enjoyed discussing a book about love and life that they wanted more. They picked another book, Louise Erdrich’s The Round House and a date in late January to meet again. They were excited about the promise of another girls’ night out discussing books, sharing laughter, and supporting each other. Out of my “Meet the Author Night”, another book club has been born.